How Bumble's latest campaign champions diversity in networking

How Bumble's latest campaign champions diversity in networking


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Bumble has come a long way since it burst onto the scene in 2014. It’s not just another dating app – with 66 million users worldwide, it’s a platform to people to connect in all sorts of ways whether you’re looking for love, friendship or to fill up your contacts book with fellow professionals.

Now, Bumble’s latest campaign has been designed with diversity within networking in mind. Find Them On Bumble Bizz: London Edition has launched to shine a light on the diverse leaders of businesses, founders and entrepreneurs in the capital, featuring the city’s rule-breakers, risk-takers and game-changers.

The app has handpicked 53 Bumble Bizz users for the campaign, from Grind’s Founder and CEO, David Abrahamovitch, to Becky Richards, co-founder of Foundation.FM to Tristan Thomas, Monzo’s Head of Marketing, showcasing the people ‘who keep this city buzzing’. Forget the Insta-celebs, Bumble is focusing on diversity to find individuals that excel in a myriad of industries and professions, from designers to doctors, artists to bankers, entrepreneurs to activists.

Bumble is also launching their first ever free newspaper to support the campaign, featuring interviews and career advice from the inspiring Londoners, which will be handed out at 22 tube stations across the city. It will tell the stories of real people who have used the platform to connect professionally and are genuinely passionate about the project.

Louise Troen, Bumble’s VP of Intl Marketing & Communications, said: ‘We’re always looking for new ways to inspire our users so they feel confident enough to go after what they want and Find Them On Bumble: London Edition is a way for aspiring Londoners to be inspired by the existing movers and shakers on Bumble Bizz.

‘By championing some of our incredible existing users, we’re showing Londoners what can happen when they go after what they want and make the first move – or next move – in their career.’

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Blue-stalling is the dating trend we've all fallen victim to at some point

Blue-stalling is the dating trend we've all fallen victim to at some point


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Picture (or recall) this: you’re seeing someone, it’s going really well, their dog loves you and you spend your weekends cuddled up on the couch drinking cheap Prosecco and watching Ru Paul’s Drag Race. The dream.

But it has been going on for a while now, and ‘the chat’ is looming. Are you official? Are you still meant to be dating other people? Will he ever post a picture of you both on Instagram?

If you’ve plucked up the courage to have ‘the chat’ but your beau is reluctant to ‘put a label on things’ or insists they ‘don’t want anything serious’ and ‘aren’t ready for commitment’ – but they’re still on Tinder and dating around – there’s a name for it.

Metro.co.uk have coined a term for this behaviour – ‘blue-stalling’ – and spoke to relationship expert James Preece about the phenomenon.

He told the site: ‘As a dating coach I know it’s incredibly common. This has always happened, but dating sites/apps have made it worse.  That’s because people are often never really clear about why they are meeting in the first place. Are they going on a date, catching up, testing a friendship or simply hooking up?

‘As nobody really knows it can be a confusing time and nothing ever really gets decided.’

Frustrating, right?

Sadly, we’ve all been there. At least once (ahem). But there is a way around it if you’re willing to cut loose when you don’t hear what you’re hoping to.

He advises: ‘If you’ve been seeing each other for a while it’s fine to want to take things more seriously. Emotions have come into play and you want to make sure they are being reciprocated. So if it’s worrying you, there’s nothing to lose by asking.

‘If they want to be an official couple then great, but if they need more time at least you’ll know. If weeks drag on to months with no change then it’s time for them to make a decision. You can’t go on not knowing, or you’ll end up resenting them.’

So essentially, if you don’t get the answer you want then it’s time to Marie Kondo them and find someone who’s on the same page as you.

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Is this dating story ending worse than getting ghosted?

Is this dating story ending worse than getting ghosted?


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There are so many terrible dating trends out there – cushioning (when your other half lines up another lover before ending your relationship), sneating (dating someone for free dinners), and orbiting (continuing to like your Instagram pics after brutally ghosting you and getting so annoyed you want to launch them into space).

And then there’s r-bombing – leaving someone on ‘read’ but never replying. Pretty sure most people are guilty of reading a message and forgetting to reply, but this is an active decision not to respond, and when the other person sees those blue ticks and never hears from you again it can be more than a little crushing.

The original dating trend, however, is – of course – ghosting. But is there something worse than being ghosted? How about someone who wants to know exactly when you’ve received and read their iMessages?

Twitter user @EricD14 uploaded a screenshot of a conversation between himself and a guy he had just been on a first date with.

He tweeted: ‘*Goes on first date, scared he’ll ghost but instead gets this text*’ before sharing the following exchange:

His date texts: ‘On my way to the gym now. Can you do me a favor [sic]?’

He replies: ‘Yeah, what do you need?’

The date then says: ‘Click on my contact, press the ‘I’, then turn on read receipts.’

His answer was a very understandable: ‘What!?!’

The reaction on Twitter ranged from astonished to outraged, with many calling it a huge relationship red flag.

Others admitted that they would never turn on read receipts, while one Twitter user said: ‘I ONLY turn read receipts for ppl that need to know I’m ignoring them.’

Is this fine? Weird? A warning sign?

We’ll let you decide.

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In a sex slump? There’s an app for that…

In a sex slump? There’s an app for that…


As a nation, we’re getting less action in the bedroom than ever – and technology could be to blame. But it may also be the answer, says Rosie Mullender, who road tests the latest sex gadgets

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There are three people in my relationship: me, my boyfriend Don, and Betty. She’s the female avatar he plays with on his PS4, and I often head to bed alone, while he stays up for hours killing aliens with gamers in a different time zone. Meanwhile, I’m happily having a passionate fling with Facebook, and both of us are seeing Netflix on the side.

We’re not the only ones whose sex lives have been interrupted by technology. Nearly all of us use some form before bed. Our always-on work culture is sending stress levels soaring, while online porn has been found to cause real-world relationship problems. Data analysed from the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles recently revealed that sex across the board in the UK is declining, with fewer than half of British men and women having sex at least once a week. This decline is most pronounced among the over-25s, and couples who are cohabiting or married (yep, that’s us). I sometimes get nostalgic about the days when we barely made it to the bedroom because the hallway was closer – rather than because we were watching ‘just one more episode’ on iPlayer.

But if technology is helping send the nation into a libido slump, could it also pull us out of it? Sex tech is a growing industry that is set to be worth £22m in revenue by 2020, and a new generation of toys and apps promises to help us get it on more often. So, which apps are most effective in encouraging us to reconnect with our partners instead of our screens? I asked four sex and relationship experts for their recommendations.

I thought Don would be excited by the prospect of trying them out, but when I asked him if he was up for it, he simply shrugged without looking up from his iPad. Oh dear, technology definitely owes us, big time, so let’s get started…

The sex-play app

‘Some apps, such as Kindu, offer a way to discover more about what you’d like to try as a couple,’ says Dr Pam Spurr, relationship counsellor and presenter of the Wham, Bam It’s Dr Pam! podcast. ‘An app can decrease anxiety when breaking free from your sexual routine and, for some couples, lead to more honesty and confidence to experiment.’

We download Kindu (free on Android and iOS), which lists a variety of sex moves we can tag as a yes, no or maybe. Afterwards, it reveals those we’re both interested in – and among the more vanilla ideas that match, such as getting a massage together, there are a few surprises. We’re both keen to indulge in a spot of bondage – something we haven’t tried since the early days of our relationship. It’s also a relief to find that Don is equally turned off by the thought of ‘hiring a professional dominatrix’.

‘I was a bit worried you’d want to try things I’m totally not into,’ he says, echoing my thoughts exactly, ‘so it’s good to see we’re on the same page.’ My main worry was that we’d use the app to hide behind our phones, instead of talking. But the real point of Kindu seems to be to spark conversation, which, as with so many things, is the key to great sex.

Sex factor: 7/10

The pulsing air stimulator

Womanizer was the first company to patent Pleasure Air Technology, and because its stimulators use air, rather than direct vibration on your clitoris, they’re gentler,’ says sex educator Alix Fox. ‘They also switch off when not in contact with your skin, making them great for couples who have children and might be interrupted.’

I order a Womanizer Premium (£169) and banish Don from the bedroom – realising that flipping through an instruction manual isn’t a huge turn-on, I decide to get to grips with it alone. The stimulation provided by the unit’s gentle suction and vibrations is like no other; it feels like an incredibly intense butterfly kiss. Don soon joins me and we play together. As the Womanizer is so gentle, I’m not shy to use it with him, and it leads us to be more tender than usual. Don’s verdict? ‘You seemed more confident and totally turned on, which got me excited, too,’ he says. It feels like a very grown up piece of kit, and one we’re definitely going to try again – once I find the charger, which I’ve lost somewhere under the bed.

Sex factor: 8/10

The mindful sex app

Ferly is an app that helps partners find new ways of being together, which aren’t necessarily sexual,’ says psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle. ‘Modern couples often struggle to make space to prioritise each other, and Ferly encourages them to do so.’ Costing £40 for a premium annual subscription on iOS (an Android version is coming soon), the app offers podcasts on topics such as the relationship between boundaries and pleasure, a series of ‘Sexy Stories,’ and practical audio sessions designed to help you connect with your partner.

We try Touch-4-Touch, which involves facing each other, focusing on our breathing, then touching ‘for touching’s sake’ – holding hands, tracing each other’s faces and gently scratching each other’s necks. The soothing voice on the app acknowledges this might feel a bit strange, and it does, at first. But it also encourages us to really ‘see’ each other in a way long-term couples don’t often make time for.

Although we keep our clothes on, those ten minutes feel surprisingly intimate and really relaxing. We don’t have sex afterwards, but fall asleep hugging. ‘I think you’re beautiful, and focusing on your face reminded me of those little details I’ve stopped noticing,’ says Don. Which is definitely what I wanted to hear.

Sex factor: 9/10

The hands-free vibrator

‘A relatively recent addition to the sex-tech field is a range of toys you can control remotely via an app,’ says family therapist Stefan Walters. ‘As well as being a great tool for long-distance couples, they can feel like a safe introduction if you’re new to the idea of using toys together. Although I’m not a sex-toy virgin, it occurs to me that I’ve never used a vibe with Don (the idea makes me feel a bit vulnerable), so a remote-controlled device sounds ideal.

I order the We-Vibe Moxie (£119.99, Lovehoney), a ‘cheeky remote-control clitoral vibrator’, and we both download the We-Vibe app. Connecting the vibe to my phone via Bluetooth, I attach it to my knickers, leave Don in the lounge and head to the bedroom. Inviting him to join in and control the device, we warm up with a bit of chat via the app. ‘New vibe, who dis?’ he asks, which makes me laugh and relax. Then, he switches the Moxie on, scrolling through different vibration modes and intensities. I send instructions – ‘stronger, lighter, next!’ – but he has ultimate control. Eventually, my chat dries up as things get more intense, so I’m disappointed when the vibrations stop. I wonder if our connection has dropped, but then Don comes into the bedroom to take over.

Sex factor: 7/10

So, can tech really boost your sex life?

Although big fans of using hands and lips in the bedroom, and frank conversation out of it, trying out new-gen sex tech was an eye-opener for Don and I. It helped us open up about what we want, as well as providing some new sensations.  Don’s keen to try the Moxie again next time I’m away for work, and I’m keeping the Womanizer in my bedside-table drawer. The Kindu is a fun conversation starter, while Ferly is a reassuring space in which to explore mindful sex, and one we’ll definitely be returning to. The internet might be keeping us out of the bedroom, but sex tech could also offer the tools to encourage us back in.

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Tinder's new safety features are extremely important

Tinder's new safety features are extremely important


Here’s everything to know…

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Tinder is still on top as one of the most popular of all the best sex apps, with research showing that it boasts 4.1 million subscribers, but it was its new safety features that made it a talking point this summer.

Last month Tinder announced its new safety feature, Traveller Alert.

But what is Traveller Alert? Well, it’s a feature designed to protect members of the LGBTQ+ community from the inherent risk of using dating apps in the nearly 70 countries that still have discriminatory laws effectively criminalizing LGBTQ status.

The Traveller Alert will be visible when the app is first opened in one of the said countries to educate and warn users of the potential dangers.

‘We fundamentally believe that everyone should be able to love who they want to love – and we strive to reflect this in everything we do at Tinder. It is unthinkable that, in 2019, there are still countries with legislation in place that deprives people of this basic right,’ explained Elie Seidman, Tinder’s CEO. ‘We serve all communities – no matter their gender identity or sexual orientation – and we are proud to offer features that help keep them safe. This alert is an example of the many steps that we are taking to protect our users around the world.’

Tinder’s collaboration with ILGA World has helped them source data to help establish where the alert should be sounded.

Speaking of the collaboration, André du Plessis, Executive Director at ILGA World, explained: ‘We hope that this development will raise awareness amongst all Tinder users, and help protect people of diverse sexual orientations in the 69 countries around the world that currently still criminalise same-sex love.’

The statement continued: ‘We support Tinder’s dedication to improving security features for their users. We work hard to change practices, laws and attitudes that put LGBTQ people at risk – including the use of dating apps to target our community – but in the meantime, the safety of our communities also depends on supporting their digital safety.’

If you’re all too familiar with the perils of Tinder, we’ve charted the 12 most soul-destroying things about internet dating.

But, if all of this means nothing to you, then here’s everything you need to know about the dating app everyone is talking about.

What is Tinder?

It’s an online dating app. When it first came onto the scene, it was used more as a hook-up/no strings sex app because it finds you potential matches based on their proximity to you. But now almost everyone seems to be on it.

How does Tinder work?

It finds your location using GPS, then uses your Facebook information to create your profile but don’t worry – nothing about Tinder will ever be posted to Facebook. Your Tinder profile is made up of your first name, age, photos of your choice and any pages you’ve ‘liked’ on Facebook. You can also include your education and occupation in your bio.

Tinder then finds you potential matches near your location (you can narrow it down by age and distance, too) and if they take your fancy, you swipe right to ‘like’ them. If not, go left to ‘pass’. If they’ve also ‘liked’ you – then bingo, it’s a match and you can start messaging.

Can you use Tinder without Facebook?

The short answer to this is sadly, no. You need a Facebook profile to be able to use the app.

Can you use Tinder online?

Yes. Thanks to an update, we have Tinder Online which you can now use on any device – including your laptop or, dare we say it, work computer. So if you need a break from spreadsheets and fancy a scroll, it’s totally possible without being glued to your phone. Perfect.

How to create the perfect Tinder profile 

We know what you’re thinking: how on earth are we meant to create the perfect Tinder profile (right-swipeable obvs) to lure in our soul mate?

A new algorithm alternates the photo first seen by others when you show up on Tinder and notes each response to put your best foot – or picture – forward to new people. Clever right?

It has seen a 12% increase in matches. So spend less time ordering your pics, and more time swiping for Mr or Mrs Right.

Tinder Smart Photos

Just remember according to a new study by the University of Iowa, the secret to success on dating apps comes down to making sure that your profile pictures aren’t all too pristine.

Those pictures that are perfectly posed and highly filtered were deemed less socially attractive and less trustworthy, so the more natural your photos the better.

It showed that you’re better off presenting your actual self rather than your idealised self if you want to attract a date. Doing otherwise, the study explains, ‘might be coded as bragging, which is associated with negative social consequences and reduced liking.’

Another study also found that people wearing glasses in their profile picture were much less likely to get a right swipe. And a recent Reddit thread revealed that the phrase you should never use in your Tinder profile is: ‘I made this account as a joke’. Makes sense, right? The other tip was: don’t state the obvious. ‘Love travelling, cheese and wine’ and ‘I enjoy nights out as much as nights in’ are not likely to get you a match. Must do better.

How to get more matches on Tinder

We had a chat with Rosette Pambakian, Tinder’s VP of Comms and the woman who helped launch the world’s most successful dating app, to ask how to get a swipe right every time. Here are her top tips.

Stop pouting and start smiling

‘A lot of people think their serious, hot photo is going to get them a lot of swipes, but we’ve found that when you’re authentically smiling it actually increases your chances of getting a swipe right by 14%.’

Keep group photos to a minimum

‘I like seeing who someone’s friends are because I think that says a lot about a person, but one group photo is enough – don’t make it your first photo, and certainly not all of them.’

Don’t neglect your bio

‘As a guy, you’re 98 per cent more likely to not get swiped right if you don’t have your bio filled out. Girls like reading and if you don’t take the time to tell us a little bit about yourself that says a lot.’

Integrate your Instagram

‘It’s a great way to keep your profile fresh, and give your potential matches insight into who you are.’

Get your pet involved

‘You need a talking point – activity photos, like skiing or surfing, are good talking points. And pets always seem to do well. Who doesn’t like an animal?’

Don’t let matches get stale

‘It’s best to send messages instead of leaving that match idle. Say something interesting about something you saw on their profile. I have a huge owl in one of my photos and it’s 90 per cent of the time the thing they comment on!’

Be authentic

‘Spend time chatting with your match to see if you guys are really going to be compatible – then you should have a good sense of whether you’re going to hit it off when you meet in person.’

What is Tinder social?

For those who want a wingwoman, this is for you. This option allows you to meet potential dates in a group situation as you can invite your friends too – way less awkward.

What is Tinder gold?

A members-only subscription service that costs around £4 per month and allows you to see everyone who has swiped right on you. Genius, right? It also allows you unlimited likes – and crucially, the power to undo them – and the passport feature allows you to like anyone anywhere in the world. It’s basically Tinder at its maximum. And worth the fee.

What is Tinder Boost?

Feeling like you’re not quite getting the Tinder love you used to? Well, that could be about to change thanks to Tinder Boost. Yes, with a name that does exactly what it says on the tin, the new Tinder update gives your profile a push in the right direction – boosting you up to be one of the top profiles in your area for 30 minutes. This results in x10 profile views and more chance of a match. Winning.

‘Boost mode’ can only be activated while swiping in Tinder mode. If you have upgraded to Tinder Plus, you will get one free Boost every month. If you become insatiable and want more, or if you don’t have Tinder Plus, simply buy a Boost any time you like.

Tinder Boost has launched worldwide and the premise is: be seen by more people, get more matches. It really is that simple.

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It even seems that some of our favourite celebs are happily swiping away. Thought that guy you swiped left for bore an uncanny resemblance to your favourite Hollywood celeb? Well, it just might have been your A-List beloved – particularly if his or her name sat next to a little blue tick. Yes, Tinder has introduced verified profiles for “notable public figures, celebrities and athletes” – much like Twitter and Facebook.

Alongside the likes of Leondardo DiCaprio, Dave Franco and Hilary Duff, Betches recently discovered that Coach Carr from Mean Girls has also joined the popular online dating app – and his profile is SO fetch.

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Dwayne Hill, who found fame in the 2004 comedy starring Lindsay Lohan and Rachel McAdams, describes himself as a 6’5 Emmy-nominated actor. Adding ‘if you’re a good cuddler, I might let you join my gang’ in his bio.

Dwayne can been seen sporting a fully fledged beard and man bun in his pictures, though with the possibility of  a Mean Girls sequel on the cards he might not want to ditch the tracksuit just yet.

Would you swipe right?

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What’s good about Tinder?

It’s instant

No agonising over a profile for hours. You can be up and running in about a minute.

Mutual friends

The mutual friends function means people almost come with references – if you’ve got 10 Facebook friends in common with a match, chances are you could be on to a winner. In addition to common friends, Tinder now shows you when you and your match are in the same social circle, too.

Easy to use

The app’s designed for mobile users, and it shows. The layout’s clear and it’s simple to use. Perfect to fill minutes when you’re waiting for the bus.

Embarrassment factor is limited

Say you ‘like’ a Jamie Dornan-esque hottie. He’ll never know, unless he ‘likes’ you too.

No unsolicited emails

On most dating sites, anyone can message you. But with Tinder, only someone you’ve ‘liked’ can make contact.

What’s bad about Tinder?

Stale matches

We’ve found it’s rare for guys to actually start up a conversation once they’ve matched with you, leaving you with lots of matches and not much else.

Casual hook-ups not long-term love

It is still very casual sex-focussed. Many men are only on Tinder for a quick hook-up, so if it’s a serious relationship you’re after this app might not be for you.

Hard to focus

The game-style of Tinder means it’s really easy to keep playing and forget about that hottie you were messaging yesterday. If you’re serious about finding someone, you’ll need to stay focussed.

It’s addictive

You have been warned.

 

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Top tips for using Tinder:

  • The best times to use Tinder are Spring and Autumn, according to online dating coach Ivana Franekova. She calls this the ‘hunting season.’
  • Mix up your photos. Tinder allows you to have six photos. Make sure these show you have a full and interesting life.
  • Try and be creative with your messages. Don’t just say ‘hey’ – you need to stand out.
  • Be on the look out for clues about height. On Tinder, age is the only vital stat you get, so it can be a bit of a height lottery.
  • Be safe. It goes without saying, but, if you do go on a Tinder date, let someone know where you are and always meet in a public place.

Beware of Tinder scams

A new problem facing Tinder is a wave of scams. The latest one involves being messaged by what seems like a match, who’ll then ask you if you’re verified on Tinder, and tell you that in order to be verified you just need to click a link and enter a code. The ‘verification’ service is actually a porn website and will charge you £90 after you enter your credit card details for ‘age verification.’ Which definitely wasn’t what you wanted.

Bad Tinder dates

Of course, once you’ve met your match there isn’t a 100% guarantee that you will get on like a house on fire. Best case scenario? You’ll mutually agree you’d be ‘better off as a friends’ after one drink and call it a night. Worst case scenario? See below…

Relationship and dating writer Lauren Crouch, who runs a Tumblr blog entitled ‘No Bad Dates Just Good Stories’, has outlined a recent encounter she had with a man she met on Tinder. 

The two met at a tube station (she wanted to meet at a pub but he said no). After refusing to go to a nice independent coffee shop because he had to cross the road, the man insisted on going to Costa (who said romance was dead?), then invited her round for dinner. Lauren quite reasonably declined, as they had only just met. He then said he had to go home to be there for his Ocado delivery.

It could have ended there and been just another disastrous Tinder date to write off. But then things took a turn for the worse, as you can see in the text exchanges below (Lauren’s are in blue).

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What are the most popular jobs on Tinder?

In September 2016, Tinder revealed the most right swiped jobs on the app i.e. the professions which gained the most interest from prospective dates. And the result? Well according the research, teaching is the most right swiped for females and lawyers were top for males. See the rest of the list, below:

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Enough to put you off Tinder? Here are 11 of the best online dating sites for you to try out.

However if you’re committed to the original hook-up app, then enjoy it. Have fun coming up with flirty/hilarious opening lines, picking your most natural pics for all those swipe rights, and let the fun begin.

But when meeting a match, always remember to be safe.

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Science says this is the worst way to break up with someone

Science says this is the worst way to break up with someone


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Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, breaking up is never easy. And while you might think that all heartbreak is made equal, it turns out that it’s not – and there’s one way of ending things that is particularly painful.

As reported by Her.ie, a study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin from Cornell University looked into which methods of rejection affect us the most. They focused on two types – rejection when there is another individual involved, and rejection without a third party.

There were 600 participants and four experiments to determine which was the most painful. The first experiment paired men with two women who were working with researchers without the male’s knowledge. One of the women was told to solve a puzzle with the help of one partner, and she either picked the other woman to help, or decided to work it out herself.

Another saw how people in larger groups reacted when discussing how they had been rejected in different situations in the past.

The results showed that we feel worse when someone else is picked over us, as opposed to when nobody is chosen.

The study reads: ‘For those who are rejected, one important difference is whether they are rejected for someone else (comparative rejection) or no one at all (non-comparative rejection).

‘Our results show that comparative rejections feel worse than non-comparative rejections and that this may be because such rejections lead to an increased sense of exclusion and decreased belonging.’

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Have you heard of R-bombing? It's the latest dating trend we know all too well

Have you heard of R-bombing? It's the latest dating trend we know all too well


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Dating etiquette isn’t hard, and yet there are so many trends out there and they’ve all got names now. There’s cushioning (when someone lines up another partner while dating you), kondo-ing (dumping the person that don’t spark joy) and sneating (dating someone for free food), and that’s just scratching the surface.

The latest dating trend on the scene, however, is R-bombing. Sounds pretty dramatic, but the premise is actually quite simple: leave someone on read and never reply.

That’s right. When the annoying blue ticks appear but a response never does. We’ve all been there – whether we’ve been on the R-bombing receiving end or are guilty of it ourselves – but only now do we have a name for letting someone know that we’ve read their message but decided not to keep the convo going.

Sometimes it happens by accident. How many times have you R-bombed a friend despite your best intentions to reply (eventually)? However, if it’s happening in a romantic capacity it’s probably not a good sign – for either party.

Dating coach James Preece told the Independent: ‘This is incredibly common both by text and through social media.

‘It’s very similar to ghosting, only you have no doubts they have got your message. You’ll be confused and wonder why they aren’t responding. The truth is that the other person doesn’t want to meet but doesn’t want to hurt you by explicitly saying so.’

He recommends that you ‘focus on finding someone who treats you respectfully’ if you’re a victim of R-bombing.

And if you’re guilty of it, maybe politely let the other person know that you’re not interested instead of ignoring them so that they get the message.

Basically, be dating-kind, people.

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Apparently these are the accents that Brits find sexiest

Apparently these are the accents that Brits find sexiest


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Brits love this Christmas film, this UK staycation spot and these sex positions – but which accents do we find most alluring?

A new study by travel comparison site Kayak asked 1,000 Brits which accents they found sexiest, and the results probably aren’t too surprising.

French got top marks from the men, with 31% admitting they like the accent best, while 34% of women prefer an Italian accent. The male participants were also fond of Italian, which came second with 29%, and women voted French their second favourite with 28% of participants. So two very clear winners when it comes to Brits favourite accents, then.

Spanish placed third with 16% of the male participants, while Scandi and Australian accents also made their way into the top five.

For women, the Aussie accent placed third with 15%, and Spanish and American got the fourth and fifth spots respectively.

Those involved in the study were also asked who they were most likely to enjoy a ‘holiday fling’ with, and while men prefer the French accent they’re more likely to hook-up with someone from Scandinavia or Italy.

Women are more likely to have a bit of getaway fun with Italians, fellow Brits and Americans.

Kayak Europe managing director John-Lee Saez said: ‘The research will be heartening news for any French or Italian people, as it seems their accents, send British hearts racing.’

Shocked? Neither are we, to be honest.

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Apparently this is the one thing you should never do on a first date

Apparently this is the one thing you should never do on a first date


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First dates can be tricky business. Whether you’re looking for true love or someone to take home, the whole thing can be a bit awkward. Especially if you decide to go for dinner with someone you barely even know. Cinema, pub, mini golf – fine. But sitting opposite a stranger for an hour and a half with no other distractions? Daunting.

But the good news is a survey by online furniture retailer Furniture Choice found that there are several things that might hinder your chances of a second date if you decide to go for dinner. Yay.

The study asked 2,002 Brits to explain what they found most off-putting when wining and dining a potential partner – and can you guess what came out as the biggest no-no?

Talking with your mouth full got a whopping 69% of participants shaking their heads.

Eating with your mouth open got 66% of the vote and texting at the table also irked 58%, while video calling during dinner didn’t go down to well with 57% (question: do people actually do this? Who would you even be FaceTiming when you’re on a date? Does anyone use video call for anything other than talking to your pet while you’re on holiday?)

Anyway, the top ten ‘most offensive dining habits’ also include taking a phone call at the table/talking loudly (54%), using social media at the table (53%), uploading a picture of your food to social media (44%), taking food from the other person’s plate (41%) and taking pictures of your dinner (40%).

Also, one rogue but slightly concerning habit was licking your knife, which irks 45% of us – likely because no one wants to end up in A&E on a first date because their Tinder match ended up accidentally slicing their tongue open.

Interior Style Advisor at Furniture Choice, Rebecca Snowden says: ‘When on a first date, it’s important to make a good first impression but also to be yourself.. It’s evident from our research that daters are attracted to and are therefore more likely to see people again if they engage with them and don’t let their phones take their attention during the date.

‘While dining etiquette has evolved over time and has become a little more relaxed, particularly in more casual settings, daters should be mindful they’re carrying good table manners as to not put off any potential suitors from dining with them again.’

It’s completely up you if you decide to hold back on taking food pictures/talking to your nan on Facetime/chewing your food with your mouth wide open.

But you could also, you know, just do whatever you want.

Your call.

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This is where the tradition of getting down on one knee to propose comes from

This is where the tradition of getting down on one knee to propose comes from


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There are some unusual wedding traditions out there that we stick to without even thinking. Ever wondered why the bride stands on the left? Turns out it dates all the way back to the days of ‘marriage by capture’ with The Knot writing: ‘The groom needed to leave his right hand (aka, his fighting hand which he used to hold the sword) free in the event that he’d need to defend his bride from other suitors who may try to whisk her away at the last minute.’

Lovely.

And proposal etiquette can be just as strange. We know that this is apparently the most romantic place to propose – but do you know why we traditionally get down on one knee to ask for our partner’s hand in marriage? What does it mean? Why do we do it?

Well, there is a very good explanation for getting down on one knee, and The Engagement Ring Bible has revealed where the tradition comes from. Luckily, it’s not as brutal as the whole bride-on-the-left thing. Apparently, it ‘dates back to the days of knighthood, chivalry and formal courtship (i.e. medieval times and beyond).’

‘Knights would get down on one knee in front of their lord as a display of respect, obedience, and loyalty. It was also a common occurrence in religious ceremonies, and in those days marriage and religion were intrinsically linked.

‘So when a courteous gentlemen was proposing to his lady, pledging his allegiance to her and declaring his undying love for her, getting down on one knee was the natural thing to do.’

So now you know.

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